Men Listen To Numbers

Men Listen To Numbers

When a woman talks about love, for men is like speaking Chinese; no one understands that. You don't know what the heck's going on with that. If you want to be clear with your husband, you have to speak very clearly. You must use what? You must use numbers. Women, you never use numbers. You say: "I don't feel loved". There's no number there. You say: "I don't feel understood". I didn't hear a number.

"Why don't you speak to me"? I didn't hear no number. You see what I'm saying? That's the problem. You women are used to talking to women. That's anxious personality. You can speak in generalities, and the anxious spine will understand what you're saying. But avoidant male, no. Avoidant male is training himself to put away emotion, and get goals done; count how many heads he has mounted on his hunting cabin. We want to know how many degrees, how many azimuths I have. Do you understand? You have to speak in numbers. So, you're mysterious. You never talk language. Think of it as Chinese. He won't understand a word; and that will make no sense to him. What you have to say is, okay, three things. You want to change your man. You guys have that slide with talking to the husband?

Very important. Number one, you want to speak effectively with your husband and change his behavior. Because actually, guess what? He loves you. He actually wants to succeed, ok? Number one, don't cry. Do not cry. A lot of women try to weaponize crying to win arguments and to control and manipulate their husband. Their mom maybe has done that to them. So, when a man sees a woman cry in the West, you basically have to lose. If you don't lose, you're a bad person. You don't care about protecting women (they will think of you like that), so do not cry. Do not cry. Don't send his spine into red mode. Don't cry. Don't cry.  Okay? Write down what you want to say before you talk to him.

Act professionally with your husband in problem solving

 

We're going to give an example really quick, and then you have to set your time. Okay? So, you have to see it like this. This is your example: 

Your husband is the head of the house, as God has ordained your husband. He's like the CEO of the company. He's like the CEO. He has the final say and the final decision.

Now the wife is not his employee. This is where the men get it twisted. The wife is not the employee, nor is she the customer. The wife is the VP of operations. So, she is in the executive branch. You understand? You are in the executive branch, but you are not the CEO. You understand? So, you can't act like the CEO and command him and tell him what to do. 

There is no VP of operations in the world that says, “Mr. President,” okay, let’s say it is the CEO, “I need to have a meeting with you. Would Wednesday 7 pm be okay? Fine, good, good, yes, yes, yes, blah, blah, blah”. The VP of operations goes in. “Sir, why don't we ever talk (lamenting)”, or “you never say anything to encourage me.” No VP in the history of mankind would ever behave like that, but how many women behave like that to their husband? 

You're going to destroy the enterprise that you are building together. You understand what I'm saying? You have to act professionally. When you are problem solving, you must behave professionally. The more professional you behave, the more the man is going to respect you as an executive partner. The more respect you get. Guess what? He wants to talk to you more. He's going to want to hear your opinion. 

But if you're the VP of operations and you say, “I need a meeting with you”, and you come in and you say, “why don't we ever talk? You always do this and that. And last week, when your mother -in-law was in here…” Oh my God! What is this about? There's no VP of operations that goes to the meeting without preparation. Take notes and know exactly what you want to talk to Mr. President about. Amen? 

You’ve got to know what you want to talk about. Don't get sidelined to grandma and the mother-in–law, and how he hurt you 30 years ago because, he said that blouse makes you look fat. Oh my, ridiculous, right? You’ve got to stay focused. Don't cry. Do not cry. Act professional. Write it down. Prepare for the meeting. And then you have to respect his time.

When you are problem solving, both of your spine is in stress mode. You understand? Both your spines are red. So, you have to do this well. If you do this well, your spines are going to produce tremendous vasopressin. What will actually produce the most vasopressin is problem solving together. If you do this skill well as a husband and wife, you're on the way to huge, huge money, big money. Big God money, big money. 

Dopamine addicts can't even understand that kind of money, okay? So, it's very important we succeed on the problem -solving training. In order to do that, especially when you're dealing with your man, if you said 15 minutes, you must finish 14 minutes and 59 seconds or earlier. Never, never go over 15 minutes. Never! Finishing early, you get more points. More money! You finish later, no money. Debt, debt, debt, right? So many couples do this terribly, “I just want to talk (lamenting)”.

Husband, when you're young and you're hot, you’ll be, “Okay, all right, let's hear about it. Okay, honey.” You'll sit there for an hour and a half or two hours, because you're still cute. When you start sagging and dragging and lagging, now you don't have that power anymore. That's why we always tell the young girls, “Don't weaponize your sexual power now. Don't act foolish, right? Just because you're cute now, don't try to weaponize it to control and dominate and manipulate your husband now.”

Because you're not always going to be cute. When you start sagging and dragging and lagging, you don’t have that power anymore. You see what I'm saying? So, we don't want to make that bad habit early. A lot of girls do that when they're early, when they're pretty. But as they get older, they're like, “How come it doesn't work anymore?” Well, because you're sagging and nagging and dragging and lagging. You're not treating him with the proper respect. So don't cry. Write down what you want to say. Set your time. This is how a VP of operations deals with a president. A successful partner, an executive partner, is going to think that she wants the president to succeed. We want the company to succeed. I'm going to go in there.

Obviously, they're not going to cry. Obviously, right? They're absolutely not going to cry. They're going to try to address the problems, one, two, three. “Mr. President, in operations, we have this, this, this issue. In tech and finance, I know that's the other VP. But in operations, we have this one, two, three issue. And I'd like to talk to you about that, pick your brain about that and see what we want to do”. And then set your time. 15 minutes means 15 minutes, 14:59, or less. 

The more you do this pattern, the more of what are you building with your man? Trust. Not the feeling of trust, not the thought of trust, but what? The what? The hormone of trust. The actual substance, the hormone, is coming out of the spine. And it's filling your bloodstream. So, your bloodstream is starting to believe and trust; the more you succeed in problem solving together, okay?

Now, do you have to constantly live in this? 

No, of course not. Only when you're problem solving, go into executive problem-solving function. When you don't have problems to solve, you can be yourself; you can be your cute self. You can be your playful self. Blah, blah, blah. Just have fun. You can do, it's great. But when you start butting heads, immediately go into professional executive management training. Immediately, right? Fun, dating, teenage love mode off. Executive brain on, right? The more you do this with your man, the more vaso you're going to produce together and the more he's gonna trust you. Actually, when you're problem-solving like this together, the most vasopressin you'll produce. 

Remember the example of the mice with the vaso? All of a sudden, he wants to stay with one woman. Now, all of a sudden, that secretary doesn't look so cute anymore. Why? Because he's problem solving with his VP. He's getting it done with his VP. She's killing it. She's on his team. She respects him. She respects  his time. She prepares for the meetings. She's on his team. This woman is clearly better than secretary or the whore down the street. You see what I'm saying, folks?

Now, with the Oxytocin bonding, it's very important. Because men's language is what kind of language, sisters? What kind of language? No, no, no. What kind of language we’ve got to use? Yes, yes. Say that again? Yes. You’ve got to use what? Numbers, right? So, for example,  don't say, “I don't feel like we're connecting. I don't feel loved.” There was no number there, okay? You have to say, for example: 

“Honey,” let's say you have a meeting with your husband; “7 o 'clock, Wednesday, okay, let's meet, no crying.” “Honey, I want to be the best wife for you as a husband. I want you to succeed as a husband. I want to be your helpmate. I want to succeed as being the best wife possible to making the most peace possible when you're home. To do that, I need three things." Here's where the numbers come.

"Number one, I need to talk with you for 15 to 20 minutes per day, every day, to just work through what I've been going through during the day. You don't have to solve any of the problems. All I need is somebody to decompress with by talking. So, I need 15 to 20 minutes, and that will allow me to produce a much more peaceful environment where you can recover and relax. But I need that 15 minutes.” 

Did you hear a number in there? Men, does that make more sense? Does that sound like Chinese? No! When you say, “I need more love,” how much are we talking here? How many minutes are we talking per day? Because I can't do two, three hours a day, honey, okay?

So, you have to be clear, reasonable. And it shows, the studies show that women need about 15 to 20 minutes per day to calm down the spine, basically. 15, 20 minutes. Now, if you promise 15, 20 minutes, and the husband's like, “Okay, babe, it's 20 minutes,” let him go. You can't get angry; you gotta let him go, right? And pick it up tomorrow. But you gotta be clear. 15, 20 minutes. I need that”. And pick it up tomorrow. You gotta be clear.

Being clear about your needs from your husband using numbers

Number two: “15, 20 minutes. I need that in order for me to function as the most effective wife to support you, and to produce an environment of peace where you can relax, heal and recover from the wars that you have to fight for us. And we're very grateful for that.” 

Always put in the gratitude. You hear me put in the gratitude at the end there, right? We're grateful for the wars you fight for us. Uh-huh. Yeah. Give that man some credit. And then, “but I need to do a date with you. I need to do that date. You know how Pastor’s always talking about that weekly date? We’ve got to do the spousal date training? We’ve got to do that date training. 

"Because I'm stuck in the home. I want to have fun. I want to go out, but I don't want to go out with other girls where guys are hitting on us. And I don't want to go out with other guys, obviously, because I honor you as my husband, and I respect you. So, I want to go out with you. So, I need a date. Let's go to a restaurant. Let's have a little coffee, a little dessert. Let's have a great night, just once a week.” Did you hear a number there? Yes, you heard a number. Does that sound like Chinese? No. You see what I'm saying?

And if you have children, for their future, so that they also can succeed in their blessed marriages and families and create these real powerful God –centered families that kill Satan, we’ve got to do their one-on-one days. So, let's do a one-on-one day with each child. Once a week, just once a week with one child. One meal, one appointment with one of the children at McDonald's or wherever it is. One date with one child per week. Not every day. Once a week, it's a one-on-one day with one child. Then next week, it's the second child. Next week, third child, right? So, it's one appointment that he is doing for his future generations. He's investing in his seed, in his lineage. So that's a plus to him, right?

And then the 15 minutes are up. You talk to your numbers. You talk one, two, three. 15 minutes are done. Leave the meeting. “Thank you for hearing me out. And if you ever need anything from me, let me know.” That's it. Finish the meeting. Don't extend it to 20, 30, 40, 50 minutes. Don't constantly try to read his emotions. He doesn't have any. He does, he actually does, but we don't show it. We don't show it until we trust you. Until we trust you, until you open the vaso flower first. If you open the vaso flower and you gain our trust, we're going to open the oxy flower. But if you try to go to oxy flower first, no, no, no. Nobody's getting in there. Are you with me, folks? Isn't this pretty clear? 

This is pretty clear. This is very clear. If you understand the God science; you can understand, wow, how many families, marriages break down because they don't understand the God science.

(Go back to the hormone and the heart, tech team).

When you’ve got the high oxy God money, and you’ve got the high vasopressin God money, or heaven's treasure money, when you’ve got these high, guess what? Your body also produces HGH, (Human Growth Hormone). Do you know what? You build muscle faster. Did you know that? When you have high vaso and oxy production, you have more HGH. So, what does that mean? Not only you build muscle fast, your man gets more muscle, become more sexy, more ripped, but also your man heals faster. Human growth hormone also is dealing with how fast you heal injuries.

Spine cannot differentiate between emotional and physical injury

And guess what? This is the crazy thing. Guess what? Your spine cannot tell the difference between a physical injury and an emotional injury. Oh my gosh. Isn't that incredible? Your spine can't tell the difference. The spine cannot tell the difference between a physical injury and an emotional injury. Emotional Damage! Remember this one? Yeah. 

So, when you have more HGH, you heal faster. Both the physical injuries and the Emotional Damage get healed faster too. Oh my gosh, isn't that incredible? And then if you have high vaso and oxy, you’ve got HGH, you also get more serotonin. Serotonin production is what? Happiness. You feel happy in this marriage.

I know you all dopamine addicts can't believe me right now. I understand. Because y 'all have only got the short hormone. You’ve got the short drug right now. You can't understand the high stuff. Okay, higher level stuff. But you get the serotonin, which is the happiness. You also get the GABA, which is the Gamma Amino Butyric Acid. Say that fast three times. The Gamma Amino Butyric Acid. What does that do? That blocks cortisol. 

It blocks you from being stressed more. So, when you’ve got high oxy and vaso, you block stress more. It's like, the duck with the water on the back, it just drops away fast; that's the GABA, Gamma Amino Butyric Acid. How crazy is that? So not only you recover faster with the HGH, you also don't get injured as much because you're blocking the stress with the GABA, the Gamma Amino Butyric Acid. How crazy is that? And then, if you're having the high vaso, high oxy, and you're having the absolute sex as husband and wife, you're having a great sex life.

We're going to get into that a little more. If you want to hear more about that, don't raise your hand. Now you can raise your hand. OK. How to have a next level sex life, not just the animal sex that the free sex dopa addicts do. You're talking about the way God and Adam and Eve were to have the sexual relation, have unbelievable bonding. But you create the prolactin, which is the sense of ultimate satisfaction. So, as you can see, when you're training in the Vaso, heaven treasure, God money, and oxy, heaven treasure, God money, that the insects cannot bite, they cannot chew, and the thief cannot steal. Your relationship is like bling, bling, bling.